Classes for Homecoming, 2018 (partial list)
Dungeon Etiquette 101
If you are new to the kink scene, here are some pointers for playing well with others. How to approach people, how to be a courteous voyeur, how to find what you’re looking for.
The art of cutting and cutting as art. Safety, materials and general description of artistic cutting, including suggested points of collaboration between the artist and the bearer of the design. There will be examples of different scalpels and materials, a demonstration cutting, time for questions and input from other participants, and brief hands-on mentoring – of a practice cutting. If you wish to try cutting or receiving a cutting you must bring your own partner. This is blood play and requires agreements about health and possible permanent markings.
Whether for sensation or to keep someone in place or position, bondage can be a scene by itself or an addition to any scene. Why do people do this? What are some of the safety concerns? How can we do basic bondage that is effective and visually pleasing? Simple ways to use rope, cuffs, household materials and specialty items to create effective bondage. Lecture, brief demonstration, time for questions and time for practice – bring your own partner and rope or other materials.
Genital Play Piercing
The how and where of piercing bits! Pretty self-explanatory, but NOT a beginner’s class. This one is edge play kids! Vulvas or cocks and balls or both! Where and how to place needles. What is safe, what you should never do. All the crazy.
You want to put that WHERE?
Discover sounds and sounding play. Explore the many delights of sounding play on the urethras of both penis enabled and vulva bearing urethra’s – sounding is fun for everyone! This class will cover basic safety and clean / sterilization techniques for sounds, types of sounds, as well as techniques for sounding anyone that has a urethra. Urethral play is generally pleasurable for all genders and is safe and exciting when done cleanly and with care. We can also cover safe catheterization for both sexes and discuss the fun that can be had by removing your bottoms control and decision-making abilities around urination.
Walk the Edge: how to enjoy the fear and control that is breath play and probably not kill anyone.
A risk aware class covering the basics of safer breath play. Negotiating consent and risk analysis for this kind of intense play. How to incorporate it into a simple scene. How to play with primal fear. Bagging, fear, restraints, blood chokes, safe signals will be covered. Discussion of the very real risks and hazards and how to best mitigate them.
“PharmaKinkology” is for anyone who wants to have a better understanding of how certain prescription medications may affect play/scenes. During this class, we will cover everything from blood pressure to diabetes medications. First, we will explore how a medication works and then take a look into how it may or may not cause problems for us during play. We will also discuss some ethical dilemmas that are likely to occur with certain types of prescription medications as they relate to consent.
STDs & STIs—What Do You HAVE to Know to Make Informed Decisions?
There is a lot of mis- and dis-information still around about sexually transmitted diseases and infections that could make a HUGE difference in what you consent to, how your consent, and how you choose to play.
FemDom: Finding Your Feminine Leadership Style
There is a lot online and in print about domination, mostly male-oriented, because, let’s face it, there are more of them than us. There is still a lot about femdom out there, too, though. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of that is actually written by men, too, being over-sexualized and fantastical. This class is about the real deal. How to find YOUR perfect balance of hot, sexy, tough, firm, loving, sweet, and whatever else you want to throw in the pot. Based on my series of Women in Charge books (available directly, posting on Amazon Soon).
Cuckolding for Couples
Cuckolding is a hot trend online these days, but is it a viable kink? I’ll give an enthusiastic YES! Not only is it a fun fetish for cuck and cuckoldress, but it actually enhances intimacy, love, creativity and fun in your relationship. Based on my popular 2 1/2-month online course, this class covers setting ground rules, finding a bull, creating an amazing cuckolding relationship and troubleshooting.
Dancing with Flame – Fireplay
Fireplay is definitely edge play, for anything with fire is implicitly dangerous. But I have found that fireplay has a sensual eroticism and art to it that so many can relate to. Who among us hasn’t sat transfixed gazing into a fires light. And to feel and witness that same sensual flow of warm flame across our bodies, lapping over, then passing and leaving only a warm lingering touch. Both technique, safety, and sensual/art/erotic applications will be gone over in this class. Even if you might not think it’s quite your thing, you might be surprised by the sensual beauty and artistry of the flame.
Suck You – Introduction to Fire Cupping.
What is fire cupping? It’s actually an ancient oriental healing method that some have perverted for fun (I know, you’re shocked!) The sensations can vary depending on the person and the placement of the cups. I will go over and demonstrate most of the techniques of cupping as well as placement of the cups. A warning to those who want to try the cups; I can ALMOST promise you that you will have marks that will last between several hours to several days (and in some cases, several weeks).
What the hell was that?!? A common question when the fire floggers come out to play. What is fire flogging? It is quite simply the most flashy thing allowed in most dungeons….and frequently not allowed. It is taking specially made floggers, dunking them unto a fuel mixture, lighting them on fire and using them like a regular flogger…. I can assure you there is NOTHING regular about this!!
Let’s Get Cracking! — Whips 101
The Basics, getting a Good Foundation, Learning How to Learn, Commonly Encountered Problems and How to Solve Them.
Stacking the Odds in Your Favor
How to increase the likelihood of successful and safe bullwhip scenes without sacrificing intensity or enjoyability, based on Dante’s years in the Scene as a BDSM and in the mainstream world as a professional bullwhip artist. Know the risks so you can make the smart choices!
Fine Tuning Your Whips
Optimizing whips for better performance — crackers, falls, conditioning, storing, repairs, elements of good whip repair bags, and more.
BDSM the Native Way: Rituals and Spirituality
Life often becomes very busy, even cluttered, with day-to-day obligations as well as working toward improving our relationships and reaching our personal goals regarding careers, self-improvement, and fulfillment. As we work toward improving ourselves in several ways, our spirituality is often neglected. Spirituality is NOT synonymous with organized religion though many feed their spiritual needs this way. It is absolutely necessary to nurture our spirituality if we hope to become whole human beings capable of enjoying all that life has to offer. In this workshop your spiritual needs will be addressed in a way that reconciles these needs with the lifestyle that beings many of us such inner fulfillment. Stormmy is a Native American that is living the way of his people and ancestors. He will take you through his journey walking the “Red Road” of BDSM with slave Nichole by his side. Discussion will include Rituals and how valuable these Rituals can be to any relationship. This will be a sharing group, everyone will be encouraged to share and have a chance to do so if they wish. Come and experience a completely new approach to spirituality that is accepting of your whole self!
Stapling for Decoration and More
This class will cover the fun that can be had with staple guns. Medical staples can be used in a variety of ways and we will show you some of our favorites. We will start by discussing the different types of staple guns and where to order them. Proper use and removal will be covered, as well as good areas on the body to start with. Stapling can be used for decoration and we will show you how to make corsets and other designs that could be worn at a party or event. They are also great for bondage and predicament play and we will share some ideas with you. Sensitive areas will be covered including facial and lip stapling and stapling for chastity. There will be live demonstration and opportunity to ask questions and share ideas.
The Crimson Splatter, Blood Play on the Edge
Blood is a powerful fluid, capable of life and disease. It is an intense way to connect with your partner and bring your play to a new level.
How do you get the blood? We will show you how to collect blood through phlebotomy and cupping, and how to prevent it from coagulating. We will give you some ideas on what to do with it once you have it and show you a few ways we enjoy it.
How to make a mess… Blood splatter with impact play will be demonstrated. We will show you some great ways to get the blood flying. There is nothing quite like the feeling of raining blood.
Don’t forget the needles, hooks and scalpels. There are lots of fun ways to play in your blood with those as well. We will share some of our ideas with you.
This will be an interactive class with plenty of chances to ask questions and exchange ideas. Not a class for the squeamish.
Bitches Get Stitches
Suture play can be so much fun but requires skill and tools that not everyone has. We will show you many alternative ways to sew with more common materials and less skills required. You can learn and practice same day with just a few supplies. We will show you how to sew for predicament play, how to sew things on to people and even sew people together. Fun with stretchy cord and other non-traditional materials will also be covered. Come and be creative and have some fun! We can also cover real suturing for those who are interested.
The Science of BDSM Research Team
Bottoming to the Universe
Extreme rituals take place in many different contexts and cultures. This talk will explore the reasons why people would choose to engage in extreme rituals, including altered states of consciousness, social bonding, and self-discovery. We will also discuss the parallels between the effects of extreme rituals and BDSM activities.
Why We Hunger for Hurt
This presentation will discuss the theoretical motivations for sadism and masochism. It will also present empirical research which has investigated sadism in the general population using different measures (both survey and experimental). We would also like to solicit ideas from the audience about how best to study sadism in the kink community.
Living in a Goldfish Bowl (Struggling from the Inside Out: Dealing with Stereotypes)
This presentation will present data on the stereotypes and discrimination experiences that BDSM practitioners face. It will also discuss the ways in which the stereotypes of BDSM practitioners contrast with the a) evidence investigating demographic characteristics, and b) kinky people’s perception of the benefits they receive from being a part of a community. The other part of this workshop will be soliciting the audience’s feedback about the actions people can take to help dispel stereotypes.
Make Me a Masochist: Changing Your Relationship with Pain
For many bottoms, how much they can suffer through – and how much they enjoy it – become points of insecurity. The bad news is that masochism cannot be taught; pain management, however, can. This class will discuss mental and physical processing/conditioning techniques regarding multiple forms of pain. We will move through the anatomy of a scene, starting with a participation-based scene warm-up lesson (come dressed to stretch!) We’ll discuss techniques for preparing emotionally, strategies to process pain, ways to take care of your body when not playing (including why we do or don’t get bruises (and what to do about them if we don’t want them), and best practices in communicating with partners after the fact.
Balancing Service Against a Busy Life
So, you want to be a service submissive… and you also want to work or study full-time, see your friends, write a novel, and maybe sleep sometimes. Getting your life organized is hard enough, but how do you get it organized in a way that prioritizes someone else’s needs as much (if not more) than your own? This class is designed to help you create a better physical planning system (based on the Bullet Journal concept) and will discuss everything from general scheduling strategies to dealing with the emotional (and physical) stress to quick and dirty techniques for getting through your tasks faster. And of course, there’s the daunting idea of admitting you need help when it gets overwhelming…
Bottoming for Consensual NonConsent
They say that the most common fantasy is the rape fantasy. Millions of people dream about being overpowered, outwitted, and pushed past their breaking point. But when it comes to reality, what are you actually getting yourself into? In this class, vahavta, s-type in a 24/7 CNC relationship, will talk about some of the great and terrible parts of CNC — including such topics as how to negotiate “out,” playing with triggers, evaluating when a scene needs to stop, and dealing with cognitive dissonance (“did I really want that?”) in drop. This class will explore the mental and physical considerations and contingency plans needed to enter a CNC environment, as well as practical skills for decreasing your own risk as a bottom in a CNC scene or full-time relationship.
This is a workshop that lead participants through warm-ups that will actively aid them in their scenes that night. information on pain and headspace management will be shared between stretches. Designed for all bodies.
CBT/CBF stands for Cock n Ball Torture/Cock n Ball Fun. We will talk about safety and explore from extreme to light CBT.
The class will be divided in 2 parts starting with the more intense CBT.
- Cock and ball safety- precautions and a brief anatomy lesson on the male pelvic area.
- Fun implements, simple ties and predicament bondage for the cock and balls.
- Hand and Feet action- How to safely and effectively hit the cock and ball area.
CBF can be used for Dominants or Tops who have submissives or play partners with low pain tolerance but who still want to explore having their pelvic area played with or, sensual players who like to focus more on sensation than on pain. CBF is also a great tool for teaching younger submissives/bottoms about their cocks and the sensations it has.
We will explore how to play with the area by creating a more edge play sensation bordering on slight discomfort, but with an emphasizes on pleasure and exploration of the cock and ball area.
One-night spanks- Safely cruising in the dungeon
Cruising is sometimes seen as a negative in our Lifestyle due to “lack of connection and communication”. What a lot of people don’t understand is that Cruising can be fun and can sometimes lead to lifelong relationships! In this class we will discuss how to approach and engage someone you have never met in either a play party or weekend event. We will discuss negotiating on the fly, how to negotiate in a Gender fluid world, safety, and discuss pointers for approaching others when you are an introvert. This will be an interactive, fun class and we will go through scenarios together!
Pegging for Big Beautiful People
You would love to peg, your partner is dying for you to do it but none of the straps fit you, it’s difficult to maneuver it and how am I supposed to move my hips? What if your partner is a person of size who would love to be pegged? We will discuss and give examples on what alternatives are out there, poses that are easier on the back and don’t require too much flexibility, gentle stretches and exercises to help you loosen up and ds to help achieve great penetration. We will also talk about lubes, stretching the culo for ease of play, how to get the play area ready for all the delightful action and what things to do in advance to aftercare your partner and you when the action is over. Bring your questions and let’s have fun!