Effective for all attendees, presenters, volunteers, and staff throughout the duration of KK
Kinky Kollege (hereby referred to as KK) is committed to creating a consensual, respectful, and inclusive environment where all attendees feel safe to explore and learn. The following guidelines are in place for all attendees, presenters, staff, and volunteers. These policies apply throughout the full duration of KK, including classes, dungeons, hallways, social spaces, and all associated events.
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- Consent is Required—Always
Only touch someone if you’ve asked and received explicit, verbal consent. Silence, body language, or previous play history are not consent. If it’s not a clear “yes,” then it’s a no. - Erotic Activity Must Be Negotiated
Before engaging in any erotic, kinky, or intimate activities—including touching genitals, breasts, or buttocks; playing with power dynamics; or initiating impact or sensation play—you must first negotiate and receive permission. Consent should always be affirmative, informed, and enthusiastic. Consent must be granted for each activity individually. Agreement to one activity does not imply agreement to another. - Unwanted Contact
If someone touches you without your permission, you are encouraged to say “No” or “Stop.” Please report the incident to KK Security Staff or a Dungeon Monitor as soon as possible so we can help support you. - Don’t Join Unless Invited
Do not enter or involve yourself in another scene unless explicitly invited by all parties involved. What you see others consenting to with one person does not mean you have the same permission. - Safewords and Withdrawing Consent
Consent can be withdrawn at any time. The universal KK safeword is “Red.” Nonverbal safe signs are also valid. If someone uses a safeword or otherwise indicates they are uncomfortable, you must stop immediately. “No” means no. “Maybe” means no. Trying to change someone’s mind undermines consent. - Risk & STI Disclosure
Informed consent includes being upfront about any risks involved. This includes disclosing your STI status or any other important information before engaging in intimate or sexual activity. - Impairment Nullifies Consent
A person who is visibly impaired (due to drugs, alcohol, or otherwise) cannot give consent. If you observe someone who appears impaired, notify a KK staff member or Dungeon Monitor right away. - Informed Consent is Honest Consent
Withholding relevant information or lying to gain consent is unethical and invalidates it. Share important information, including health and safety risks, honestly. - Coercion is Not Consent
Do not use pressure, manipulation, guilt-tripping, or coercion to obtain consent. Consent must be freely given. - Protect Each Other’s Privacy
Never “out” someone as kinky, non-monogamous, or otherwise involved in alternative lifestyles—whether in person, online, or through photos—without their express permission. This includes using people’s legal names. - Phones and Photography Are Strictly Forbidden
Phones, photography, and video recording are strictly prohibited throughout the event except in the designated cell phone area. This applies to both public and private event spaces. Anyone seen using a phone outside of the designated area may be subject to removal from the event.If you need to stay reachable for emergencies or urgent alerts, we strongly encourage the use of a smartwatch set to silent mode.No photos or recordings of any kind are allowed at KK, even in the cell phone area. This is a zero-tolerance policy to protect the privacy and safety of all attendees. - Reporting Violations
We take reports of consent violations seriously. To report a concern:- At the event: Speak to any clearly marked KK Security Staff, Dungeon Monitor, or Safety Lead to be directed to a trained Ethics Committee member. Or, speak to an Ethics Committee member directly. Ethics committee members can be easily identified at the event by a badge ribbon attached to their KK Badges which designates them as an official KK Ethics Committee member
- Outside the event: Email kk.ethicscommittee@gmail.com, or reach out to the KK Ethics Committee’s Official FetLife Account. You will receive a confirmation within 72 hours.
- Consent is Required—Always
We will treat your report with discretion and care. Reports will be investigated by our Ethics Committee to ensure fairness and impartiality.
Ethical Conduct Beyond Consent
We expect everyone at Kinky Kollege to model ethical BDSM values at all times—inside and outside of scenes and classrooms.
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- No Mid-Scene Negotiation: Do not introduce new elements during a scene. Save it for next time.
- Hurt, Not Harm: Understand the difference between consensual pain and lasting harm. Never aim to diminish someone’s ability to thrive.
- Confidentiality is Crucial: Do not share personal or sensitive information learned at KK, including names, identities, or experiences.
- Integrity Matters: Uphold these principles consistently. You represent the KK community in everything you do
Disclaimer: Kinky Kollege and Social Interactions of the North Shore (DBA Leather SINS) will make every reasonable effort to enforce this policy. However, we cannot guarantee full enforcement in all situations, and each case will be reviewed individually.
All attendees are ultimately responsible for their own safety and for respecting the boundaries of others.
This is a living document—our understanding of consent and community ethics evolves over time. We are committed to updating this policy to reflect current best practices. Any significant changes will be made in consultation with the Kinky Kollege Board of Directors.
We recognize that no policy can account for every scenario. We welcome ongoing feedback and community discussion to help us improve.
The Kinky Kollege board members would like to acknowledge and thank National Coalition of Sexual Freedom for their reference materials that assisted in the creation of this updated consent policy.
