Classes and Roundtables for the Previous Event – Homecoming 2024
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Charlie Doll (he/it/xe)
Giddy Up: Practical Guide to Pony Play 
Pony Play can be an incredibly rewarding activity for both Handlers, and for their Ponies. While Charlie can (and frequently does) spend hours passionately discussing this topic, this class will focus on how you can explore Pony Play in fun and exciting ways, even if you have no experience with it previously. We will touch on a number of topics, including some of the different types of Pony Play, pony grooming, tack, training, and groundwork. Hopefully by the end, you will be better able to understand why Charlie, along with many other ponies and handlers are so passionate about this form of play.
How my Gender Identity has shaped my BDSM Journey
Gender identity is a huge part of ‘Self’, and it’s influence both internally and externally can be immense. Being transgender in the BDSM community can bring many challenges; some of these might seem obvious, but others can be more subtle. In this discussion, I will describe how my gender identity has impacted my place in Leather, how I was introduced to it, and how my place in the community has impacted my gender journey. While every experience is unique, I will also talk about some common issues that Trans Folks in the community face, how to approach us, and how to play with us.
Religion and Kink
Embark on a thought-provoking journey into the intricate intersection of spirituality and kink. This course offers an in-depth exploration of how individuals can navigate the realms of BDSM while maintaining a strong connection to their religious affiliations. We delve into the complexities of balancing personal faith with the liberating dynamics of authority transfer, surrender, and devotion inherent in kink practices. We will cover that one can exist in both the realms of kink and religious faith, challenging preconceived notions and societal expectations; the spiritual dimensions of Master/slave dynamics and how they can align with personal beliefs, offering a unique perspective on the intersection of power exchange and faith; moments of internal conflict and crises of faith that may arise when navigating the dual worlds of kink and religion, providing tools for introspection and resolution; reconciling seemingly conflicting elements, fostering harmony between one’s kink practices and religious convictions; and the search for or creation of faith-based communities that embrace and support the diversity of personal lifestyles, including those involved in BDSM.
Devyn Stone (he/him)
The Art of Getting What you Want: Building Agency and Autonomy
While the kink and BDSM scenes are often lauded for more clear and concise negotiations in relationships, these skills often take a lot of practice and tend to overlook other related skills. To be a successful negotiator, one does not just need to know what kinds of kinks they want and don’t want, but also need to nurture their agency and firmly establish boundaries. Devyn Stone, in “The Art of Getting What You Want,” provides frank discussion with attendees on agency and autonomy. In this class, attendees define and explore what it means to create and enforce boundaries, how to determine what exactly you want in a potential negotiation, the fine art of saying no, as well as understanding when you really mean yes. Attendees will leave this class with a clearer understanding of their boundaries, agency, and autonomy, and will be equipped with techniques and tools to develop these crucial concepts.
Whose Responsibility Is It Anyway? Personal Responsibility and Kink
Let’s face it, there are times we aren’t sure who is responsible for what parts of negotiation and play. Several areas of responsibility will be covered, including risk, consent, aftercare, and negotiation. This class is oriented to beginners and seasoned players alike and is inclusive to all orientations.
Space to Share: Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Creating Affirming Spaces
Are you getting complaints or just looking to improve anywhere you can, let’s do it! Creating a diverse, equitable, inclusive, and affirming space is a huge job but it is one that truly makes a space the best it can be. If you want to improve your space for everyone – this class is for you. We cover things like conscious language, signage, rules, protocols, and mindset.
Community Accessibility Roundtable
Join Devyn Stone for an opportunity to vent, discuss, and maybe even solve some of the access issues in our community. We will discuss financial, physical, and many other types of access. How do we make our spaces and organizations more accessible and welcoming to everyone? Let’s talk about it!
Diva Electrique
Perfect TENS: Sensation Play with Electro-stimulation Devices
Violet wands may be all the rage, but they are far from the only means to elicit some fabulous reactions from a willing participant. These “mostly” silent devices can really bring a whole new level to your play. By providing a nice constant buzz, or administering some very well-placed jolts to give your scene that extra special touch, intramuscular devices can be a wonderful addition to any toy chest! We will discuss everything that you will need to add some current into your kink repertoire.
Glossy Deviance: An Introduction to Latex & Rubber Kink
Interested and new to latex and rubber but are unsure of what can get you started? Perhaps you have a general basis and want to build upon your knowledge on what factors to consider in purchasing gear and garments? Does the notion of wearing such a slinky or tight material intrigue or excite you? How about the fashion aspect, gas masks, or even the “greatest hug” of complete, immobile enclosure in a vacbed? We will cover all of the basics with getting you started in latex-related interests. Aside from the essentials of care, maintenance, and storage of rubber and latex items, we will also explore the history, types of gear and fashion, different grades of material, and the processing that can determine its longevity and durability throughout the years.
Latex Roundtable
Wear your favorite latex, or dream about having some, for a discussion about the slick material, the feelings it invokes, or the amazing looks latex creates. Bring your questions and tales, about expressing yourself through this fetish marvel.
Gogo Digger and AndrogynousKit (she/her)
S.M.I.L.E: sadistic mindfuckery in Littles’ environments
Delve into the twisted mind of a bratty sadist. In this class we will discuss negotiation tactics, safety, how to plan and execute the torture of those poor innocent Littles.
Building Your Polyamory Toolkit Roundtable
Exploring the fluid dynamics of a polyamorous relationship can present its share of difficulties. However, devising practical resources to navigate these challenges can simplify the process of building a solid foundation for a successful poly relationship. Join Gogo in this discussion as she unveils a series of techniques for constructing an efficient relationship toolkit.
This Ain’t No Demo: Exploring Scene Dynamics Beyond Technical Skill
While conventions and workshops often focus on honing technical skills, there is more to a truly fulfilling scene than the application of hard skills. In this class, we’ll explore the dynamics that create exceptional kink experiences by reviewing the mechanics of play, building connection, understanding pain and energy flow, and using the environment, verbalization, and physicality to elevate the intensity and intimacy and help you craft deeply satisfying scenes that leave a lasting impact.
We Are The Champions: Advocation and Negotiation From the Bottom
Designed to equip s-types and bottoms with empowering insights and practical techniques to assert themselves effectively, advocate for their needs, and negotiate with confidence and grace. We will cover boundary-setting skills, conflict resolution strategies, and the art of asking for what you want without compromising your position. Unlock the power of “The Playlist” and other tools to confidently articulate desires and preferences, empowering you to advocate for your needs in any setting.
Kaybee (She/Her)
Old Guard, New Guard, Screw Guard: A conversation on Age in the Scene
What do we mean when we talk about the “Old Guard” and “New Guard” of Leather and BDSM? What are the origins of these terms, and how has their meaning and use changed over time? How can we consciously build a respectful, caring multi-age community? Are kinky retirement communities the wave of the future? This class provides historical context, and space for open discussion around issues of age, aging, and ageism in our community. The goal is to foster inter-age dialogue, but where the conversation goes will depend on who shows up!
Elemental BDSM
How can we bring ritual, reverence, and/or nature-based spirituality into our kink – without necessarily subscribing to “The Woo” or a particular belief system? Working with the elements – air, fire, water, earth – is one way to incorporate a bit of magic(k) while remaining grounded in the material and manifest. Part workshop, part ritual, this class covers the concepts, correspondences, feelings and practices that adhere to each of the elements, while exploring how we can apply them to BDSM. I will borrow from my background as a Wiccan priestess, while encouraging participants to share their own encounters with the elements in life and kink.
Pervertibles! DIY Kink
“Pervertibles” are all around us! I’ll share some of my favorite “found” toys and my techniques for using them – and ask you to share some of yours. Learn how to make a flogger using simple materials and tools you may have at home, or can find cheaply at Acme Bondage (aka Home Depot). Bring your own kinky DIY skills, ideas, and creations to share. Depending on time and facilities this can be part hands-on crafting session, with some materials provided.
Master Malik
Dance of Teeth and Flesh 
It is cruel, primitive, instinctive, intense, sadistic, and painful. It is all this and much more. Yet, many of us engage in this wonderful activity willingly and consensually. We shall explore the dance of teeth and flesh, otherwise known as BITING. Let’s find out why we do it, learn where to bite, how to bite, how to control the pressure…to draw blood or not to draw blood. We shall discuss and demonstrate different stages of this dance and share our experience and your stories. We consciously or subconsciously try to achieve an altered state of mind and hope to dance around our innermost, and sometimes scariest, thoughts and dreams. We laugh, sob, cry, scream, giggle, shriek, growl, etc. during these powerful interactions. We shall discuss safety issues and explore the sounds of bite and most of all, the pleasures of biting and bitten.
Rituals: The Guiding Lights
Rituals, in one form or another, have been with us from the time beginning of human history. Sacrifices, rites of passages, proof of obedience, show of devotions, signs of loyalties and list goes on and on. And this is also true in the realm of our chosen lifestyles. Rituals are guiding lights. They help us grow, stay focused, allow us to be on our chosen paths, and strengthen our dynamics and relationships. They are reminders, if done consistently, to be what we claim to be to each other and to our larger tribe. We shall discuss the allure and perhaps necessity of rituals. We shall emphasize that it is in our power to create our own. Come and join us and feel the power and magic of our most ancient form of interaction….RITUALS.
Music & Soul of the Canes
Canes are pretty much synonymous with punishment in all times, ages, cultures and societies. “Best of Six” or “Victorian Discipline” are just two examples. News reports associate canes with punishment such as the case of the young man caned in Singapore a few years ago. In the BDSM realm canes evoke a harsh image when referred to but there is also an overlooked side to canes. One of sensuality. Have you considered the catharsis aspect of a good caning? We shall discuss material types, rhythm, stroke intensity, care, storing, and maintenance. Please bring your own canes for show and tell. I am sure we shall have plenty on hand. Let’s discover the music and soul of the canes and dance with its own tune.
Mr. Scott (he/him)
Whips 101 (with Phoenix Carlotta)
Snap, crackle and pop! Whip it all night. Have you ever wanted to be hit with a whip? Do you like the sensation you feel as a bottom in needle play? Do you like the way a knife feels on your skin in a knife scene? Do you prefer a sharp/sting sensation over thuddy impact tools? If so, a whip might be the tool for you as a bottom. Are you a sadist, switch, or top that likes delivering a sharp pain sensation? Do you enjoy watching a bottom jump, squirm scream, and enjoy the pain in a scene? Whips might be what you are looking for in your next play scene. Tops will learn how to use a whip in a play scene. Bottoms will learn how it feels to be hit with a whip and what to expect in a whip scene. Please bring your whip to class and a partner if you like, but it’s not necessary.
Munch & Crunch
Why are munches so important to the BDSM/kink community? How do you start a munch? What to look for in a munch? Can I use a munch to vet potential partners? The munch is the heart and soul of any BDSM community. It does not matter if you have a public dungeon in your local area or not. Come learn how a munch can grow the kink community in your local area. This class will teach you how to create a successful munch and make it last for a long time.
Flogging 201 (with Phoenix Carlotta)
Tops, switches, bottoms to the front of the line. Flogging can be fun, exciting and relaxing to everyone involved in the play scene. What type of flogger should I purchase? Where do I find them? How can I use them in my scenes? Flogging is a skill and an art you can learn in our flogging 201 class. This class will be interactive, so wear something comfortable. This class will give you a chance to use a flogger as a top and feel one as a bottom. Please bring your floggers to class and a partner if you like, but it’s not necessary.
Ms. J (She/Her)
Beginners Fire Intensive- Intro to FirePlay and Hands-on Workshop
Learn and practice fireplay instead of just watching it. Ms. J will cover fire kit necessities, safety, wand construction and scene set-up. Bring your materials and you will construct your own fire wand. Ms. J will lead you through wand techniques, then you will partner up and practice on each other. Ms. J will watch, mentor, and make suggestions on your technique. You will leave class with the confidence to continue on your fire journey. Come on……..become one of Ms. J’s baby dragons!! This is a 2 part class, occupying 2 class periods.
Sensual Savagery
A brush of the hand to the breast…slowly up the neck…pausing slightly to caress the ear…then a formidable fist full of hair…the hushed whisper “I’ma fuck you up…while your partner just watches and does nothing!” The slow retreat of the hand as though this interaction was a sensual and intimate exchange between you two. This class is a delightful combination of rough body play, pressure points, and sexual intimacy directly appealing to any connection and reaction junkies. Join Ms. J to discuss and see how to make your inner Sensual Sadist flourish.
Myrina & SwinkyLife
Bedroom Rope Play: Sex Handle Harnesses
Sex Handle Harnesses is an intermediate workshop for folks with a knowledge of basic knots and hitches. Focusing on bedroom fun, play, and perhaps a light dose of power dynamic, this workshop seeks to spur creativity and sexy fun between couples as they learn techniques to safely restrain their partner while turning their partner into their personal “sex toy”. This hands-on workshop allows participants to practice, tie and explore their own creativity within their own “bedroom rope space”.
Beginner Bedroom Rope Play
This hands-on workshop for learning rope skills specifically focuses on light bedroom play. We teach a basic single column, a basic double column, and specific tie-off skills well suited to bedroom environments. We then begin creatively combining those basic skills into fun restraints designed to enhance bedroom play. As with all Swinky Life workshops, our goal is that attendees learn good useful skills that they can leave, go straight back to their room, and begin having fun.
Bridging the Gap: Swinging and Kink
Bridging the Gap — In this open roundtable forum, we discuss the myths and misconceptions that surround swinging and kink as well as the commonalities between these two communities. We talk about challenges kinksters can face when engaging with ethical non-monogamists, aka swingers, and vice versa. We go in-depth on the differences in consent, negotiation, and social norms and how these ideas are firmly in place in both communities but operate very differently. We share our experiences and answer questions from participants about the swinging lifestyle and our respective journeys into non-monogamy and kink.
More Than Swinging
This workshop is more of a “Meet the Poly Foursome” format. The Swinky Life crew (aka World’s Okayest Poly Foursome) discusses the many variations of polyamorous relationships and openly shares the challenges we face in our day-to-day lives, and how “being Poly” has changed our lives. We talk about the changes, how we balance all of the various pushes and pulls, and how we work together to make this an amazing lifestyle choice for all of us.
Professor Grey(she/her)
Heavy Hit-Her
Yes – You heard that right! Grey will focus on heavy impact. Whether you are starting to explore this topic or want to “punch” up your current scene play this class is for you! In this section we will discuss anatomy, safe strike zones, implement densities, and then how to put it all together. The demo portion of this course will offer a combination of rough body play and heavy instrument/object impact. And Yes, she will hit-her!
The DR. is IN!
Medical scene play is an excellent way to put things in the human body! Make an Appointment with Professor Grey to explore medical devices in scene play and how to poke, prod, insert, and infuse your medical play fetish. The demo portion of this course will provide both a breast and prostate exam.
Popping, Burning, Cutting, OH MY!
Let’s burn/freeze/slice through the bullshit and take a look at the similarities and differences between these types of body modifications: cell popping/micro-branding, burning/freezing, and superficial cutting/scoring/scarification. During this demonstration, a sample of each type of body modification will be executed to display the various level of skin injury and discuss healing time.
Raea(she/her)
Negotiation – – It’s Not Just for the Dungeon or Boardroom
Negotiation is a key communication tool to discuss just about anything. In Power Dynamics, they can help with everything from ensuring everyone gets their needs met to introducing new topics or forms of play, or to even just decide the little things like what’s for dinner or how clothes should be folded. In this class, we will discuss and share with one another how we use negotiation in our dynamics — What helps? What hinders? What surprises have we learned about our own negotiation styles?
Playing for Keeps — Active bottoming skills
“Bottoms don’t have to do the work”… Bullshit. Active bottoming skills engage safety, endurance, and aftercare to enhance the overall experience during and after play. This class covers personal safety, harnessing your skills, learning to process variable sensations and intensities. We’ll also go over how to improve physical endurance pain processing and how to make adjustments in play for our changing needs.
Bouncing Back Faster: Understanding After Care for Heavy Play
Everyone gets drop from play, but drop may not be the only thing that affects you. When you engage in heavy physical play such as heavy impact, tough suspension positions, or other physically taxing forms of play you may find that you also have physical markings that require attention. Over time you may also find it more challenging to recover from play. This class will go over some best practices pre, during, and post play. Additionally, we will go over how to move pain through the body, using some alternative healing practices and best practices in wound care and recovery.
I’M FINE…… but really I’m not. Radical Truth
Being open and honest is essential in a power exchange dynamic, but sometimes it’s easier to say “I’m fine” rather than sharing what may be upsetting you. But little white lies have a way of growing into resentment and frustration. How do we foster vulnerability and forgiveness to have the difficult conversations that help us grow in our dynamics? This class will discuss skills and practices that help encourage honesty at all times through the practice of radical honesty and forgiveness. Master Leather Redux and Raea will share both their personal challenges and successes with radical honesty and forgiveness. Additionally, they will share how the practice of radical honesty and forgiveness helps to heal older wounds around shame and guilt that may be getting in the way of alignment in our dynamics.
ruby
Recovery in the Lifestyle meeting
ruby will be chairing a Recovery in the Lifestyle meeting at Kinky College this year, for the benefit of any who identifies as “In Recovery” of any kind, to come and connect their kink and recovery selves all in one place!
Scott Smith
D/s Protocol – Scott Smith Style, with help from my StrumPet
Connection is my passion, protocol and D/s are core tools to achieving that goal. This workshop starts with a foundation in Old Guard, covers a lifetime of introspection, experimentation and teamwork, and results in an ongoing journey with a partner/bottom that I lovingly call my property. Choose to gain or ignore insights from my triumphs, challenges, and outright mistakes. What are the protocol items that have withstood the test of decades? What are the ones that got thrown out? What are the underlying reasons for each? What are our top 10 tips to success?
Mummification
It’s a wrap! Serious immobilization and confinement à la the hardware store. Mummification is the ultimate in custom fit, confining bondage. Through the artful use of pallet wrap and duct tape, we’ll cocoon a human from head to toe with repeatable techniques that can be used with a myriad of materials, including plastic, plaster, cement, latex, rope, fabric, silk, and more. This is all about packaging, what you do with the helpless victim afterward is up for discussion.
Rope for the Impatient
Speedy, Secure, Sadistic, Says it All. Hands-on interactive workshop focusing on quick and effective bondage with an eye towards fun, fear, predicament, and frolicking. Good by themselves, even better in combination. Bring rope – including a small diameter such as 550, an unsuspecting victim, and comfortable clothing.
Torture Ties
Let’s journey down that rabbit hole together, where the rope passes beyond the caress and finds its teeth—biting & gnawing along the way. This class is about suffering, and suffering for a purpose – to build connection. The ties will be painful, and the sounds of both top and bottom will be glorious. The outcome will come down to the moment when one participant watches the other’s pupils dilate and then makes a very individual choice of what to do next.
Seq (they/she)
Got Consent
Join us for Got Consent, a good starting point for Consent To Kink. We will touch on the following ideas: State of Consent, Consent Culture, Consent Best Practices, Things to Consider, Withdrawing Consent, Ability to Consent, Trauma, and Explicit Prior Permission for Consent to Kink. We will also provide free resources made available by the National Coalition For Sexual Freedom.
Evaluating risk before you play
In this class we will look at various consent models, then delve into ways to examine the risks of play, so we can better plan to mitigate risks and evaluate whether a scene should proceed. If time allows, we will explore one or more scenarios as a group.
SnapAndRun and RunsForSnap
Partially Suspended but Fully F’d Up
Rope tops, have you ever looked at your bottom, peacefully dangling in your rope, and thought they look waaaay too comfy? Rope bottoms, have you ever been in rope and craved more intensity or to be pushed further? In this class we will explore ways to use a partial suspension sequence to create an F’d up journey of suffering and endurance.
Using Rope to Create Connection
Sometimes, as we move forward in our Rope journey, we focus on technical skills — learning this knot, or that friction, or this specific harness. It’s easy to lose sight of the essence of Rope… that it physically and metaphorically connects us to our tying partner. In this class, we will do a series of hands-on exercises designed to build trust, enhance intimacy and create connection with our tying partner.
Bedroom Bondage & Sexy Shenanigans
There’s so much we can do with rope in the boudoir, beyond tying our partner’s limbs to the bedposts! During this class, we will explore a variety of ties and techniques to enhance your sexy, fun time. Come and get inspired!
Co-Creating Better Rope Scenes Roundtable
Have you ever walked away from a rope scene feeling disappointed, unsatisfied or unfulfilled? Or do you feel like you’re in a rope rut, want something different but aren’t sure how to get it? In this interactive roundtable, folx will have an opportunity to share their ideas & experiences on how to break out of the humdrum or turn “meh” scenes into “wow!” scenes.
Tat Tsing (She/They/He)
Playing with POC (w TheQueenBey)
Playing with People of Color is about filling in *some* of the educational blindspots when it comes to POC in BDSM. This is not a racism 101 class but we will touch on how racism informs the reason why this class even exists. This class is definitely not exhaustive but it heavily pulls from my own experiences and the experiences of other POC and the things we wish were included when presenters talk about BDSM. This includes: Lack of representation, lack of accessibility of spaces, isolationism, the emotional labor expected from POC, microaggressions that are overlooked.
Yoga for Kink
All bodies and all skill levels are welcome. You do not need prior knowledge of yoga or a prerequisite to be able to do a backbend to join. This is for both tops and bottoms! We will also be doing hand stretches to mitigate hand injury.
Science of BDSM Research Team
Attachment Style and the Psychology of Authority Transfer Relationships
Brie Muzzy and the Science of BDSM Research Team will dive into How do we handle the challenge of intimacy?
According to relationship researchers, some of us approach relationship partners with a sense of security, trusting that they have our best interests at heart. Others approach relationship partners with anxiety, unsure of whether they feel about us as we feel about them. Still others approach relationship partners with some reluctance, concerned about the impact of the relationship on our
autonomy.
In this presentation, we explore research on these different attachment styles and how they relate to BDSM roles and relationship satisfaction. We then share the results of our latest study conducted at Kinky Kollege and the Master/slave Conference on how the role clarity found in Authority Transfer relationships might help reassure those with an anxious attachment style.
The Egalitarian Monogamist and Other Embarrassing Identities
Taylor Mackenzie and the Science of BDSM Research Team will explore the increasing popularity of BDSM imagery, erotica, and activities, kinksters still face substantial stigma from those outside the community. Unknown thus far, however, is whether practitioners also face stigma within the community due to their interests in certain activities and relationships.
This presentation will begin with a review of past research on stigma and the impact it has on individuals and organizations. We will then share study results that examine which BDSM interests, activities, dynamics, and relationship styles BDSM practitioners would be hesitant to disclose to others within the BDSM community (spoiler alert: vanilla relationships are particularly embarrassing to disclose). Finally, we’ll explore what the BDSM community can do to reduce this self-imposed stigma and to support everyone in the activities and relationships we wish to pursue.
The Science of BDSM: The Cutting Edge
Brad Sagarin and the Science of BDSM Research Team will discuss research on kink that has exploded, with more researchers and laboratories examining kinky people, kinky activities, and kinky relationships. In “The Science of BDSM: The Cutting Edge” we explore the latest scientific research on BDSM including the results of three studies conducted at Kinky Kollege Spring Break 2024: The effects of a brief BDSM experience, the Graphic Sex Project Kink Edition, and the EEG study measuring brain states in bottoms during BDSM scenes.
TheQueenBey (they/them)
Paddles and Rhythmic Caning
Have an internal song that you find yourself playing along to or ever wanted to drum along to a song in a dungeon? This class might be the one for you! We will primarily be focusing on the basics of using paddles and canes, various spanking/caning positions, and some of the psychological aspects behind the uses of these particular impact instruments. We will then transition into using rhythmic caning and scene setting to help induce subspace for bottoms by following along to music or certain cadences and using music to build suspense and guide the flow of your scenes. There will be time to practice, so bring your paddles, canes, playlists, questions, and ideas! This class will include some basic anatomy for impact play such as places to avoid, the best places to target, and looking for indicators/reading bodily responses to impact play.
Who down with CBT??
This class teaches the fundamentals of CBT (Cock and Ball Torture, not Cognitive Behavioral Therapy!) We will go through safety and anatomy to prevent lasting damage to the genitals, as well as various methods and tools you can use to enhance your CBT play.
Traveling Fool
BDSM and Personal Journeys Roundtable
It is the Journey not the Destination. How many times have we heard that, and never is it more true than in the world of BDSM. Many of us came into this world for the excitement, the fun, the eroticism, the danger, the edge. What we so often found was a series of growth opportunities, rites of passage, rituals, moments and experiences that changed our lives. Come talk about your journey, share it with others. Where you started and where you have come. What you have learned and where you want to go. I will talk about a lot of mine, the fun ones, the moving ones, the painful and emotional ones. Those are the ones that helped me learn and grow. Come share yours and let’s grow together.
Blood Play
Blood play. Blood passion. Blood lust. Not just seeing blood as a byproduct of a scene to be carefully cleaned off, but having the blood as the focal point of your scene to be kissed and licked and loved. Focusing on the HEAT and the intimacy. Cover yourself and your partner. Feel, taste and smell them. Think of sex without condoms but more heat. It is THAT feeling we want. Though we will touch on safety, this is not a safety class or a “learn to pierce class”. Through cutting with knives and scalpels, piercing, vampire gloves and blood cupping. Blood turns us on. When not in public dungeons, we play in intense and risky ways that may not please the safety police. Come and share your ideas. Maybe the vampire movies and old grade B slasher movies touched a nerve. Maybe you just KNOW that blood equates to heat which equates to passion for you. Let’s learn together how to make these scenes about bonding, connection and sex and not about technique.
Mindfucks 101
One of the most common forms of BDSM is Mindfucks. We do them by themselves. We combine them with other forms of play. Think knife play, interrogations, and so many others. For some Bottoms, nothing compares to the excitement and fear brought on by a good Mindfuck.
What are Mindfucks? How do we plan them, from the most simple to the most complex? How do we “get consent” for something the Bottom does not even know is going to happen; execute our plan that “says” we are doing one thing, when we are actually doing something else;and what about after care? Like a magician, how do we handle the “reveal”. How do we tell the Bottom what was really happening? And are there times that it is better to keep our magic tricks secret and not reveal what was really happening?
Sexual Tension
Sexual tension is simply the phenomenon that occurs when two individuals interact and one or both feel sexual desire, but the consummation is postponed or never happens. It is frustrating, and that is often our intent. Create desire and sexual need and frustrate it. Make the desire last longer without consummation early on. Pleasure comes as much from the anticipation as it does the consummation. In this class we are going to anticipate LOTS. We use bondage, chains, isolation, mummification, sex talk, sexual hints, jealousy and things like chastity belts/cages, to increase their desire, build it through delay and continual frustration and continual anticipation. You can play at more extreme edges: using jealousy or denial, this can be the ultimate edge play. Since we are putting our emotions at risk, trust and communication matter here as much as playing with knives, ropes, or whips. This requires lots of communication and reassurance. This is a “team sport”. It is, ultimately, about intense pleasure that can only come from intense play.
At Kinky Kollege, we’ve taken note of concerns about the intensity and potential triggers in some of our classes. We try our best to use the class descriptions to let attendees know what they are walking into before they attend a class. As an attempt to improve on this, we have added spiciness ratings for each class.
Our goal is simple: give attendees a heads-up on what they’re getting into before they dive in. The spiciness level doesn’t reflect the quality of the class; it’s more of a trigger or trauma warning. The higher the spiciness, the more consideration you should give to the class description before attending.
Remember, it’s totally okay to bow out if a class turns out to be spicier than expected.
