Standards of Behavior

This event takes place at a shared hotel venue; to protect this valuable educational resource we ask that all attendees maintain a high standard of behavior while at Kinky Kollege.

Our policies are here to protect the safety and accessibility of Kinky Kollege, to ensure that we can continue to hold this event in the future, and to make sure that all attendees, whether they are new to the community or life-long kinksters, feel informed and supported at all times.

Shared Space Awareness

Kinky Kollege operates within a public hotel that hosts other guests, staff, and vendors who are not part of the kink community. While our event takes place in badge-only areas that are otherwise secured and monitored, we must be mindful of shared common spaces like the lobby, hotel hallways, elevators, and restaurants.

Because of this, we ask that all attendees exercise discretion and respect in common spaces of the hotel. This protects our event’s reputation and future, and it shows that we are a considerate and conscientious community.

Please:

• Keep clothing on in common spaces of the hotel
  • Nudity and partial nudity, including exposed breasts, genitals, buttocks, or explicit undergarments, is not allowed in public spaces
• Act discreetly and respectfully at all times in shared hotel spaces, including in public or outside of events-only spaces
• Refrain from walking partners on leashes or in bondage, or engaging in power exchange displays in public spaces
• Do not engage in play, impact, sexualized touching, or restraint displays outside of the secured event areas
• Keep props and equipment stored and covered
• Remember: fetish wear and risqué clothing is not appropriate for shared hotel spaces; bring some type of cover up and remove it after entering the event space
• Treat all hotel staff and guests with dignity and respect

Your behavior as an individual reflects on the entire community. Help us ensure that this event can continue for many more years by acting respectfully in shared hotel spaces.

Behavior Within Event Spaces

Once inside Kinky Kollege event areas—classrooms, lounges, vendor spaces, hotel hallways, and all secure play spaces—you may do and express yourself however you like. Within the guidelines of our community agreements, this is your playground.

Inside the Kollege space, we ask all attendees to:

• Actively practice enthusiastic and informed consent at all times
• Respect personal boundaries around non-consensual touching, personal space, and invasive or intimidating behavior
• Be considerate and affirming of all attendees’ identities, pronouns, titles, roles, and relationships
• Respect Kinky Kollege’s no-photos policy; cameras, phones, and recording devices are not allowed in event spaces
• Use event spaces respectfully, including shared furniture, equipment, and supply areas (return what you borrow and clean up after yourself)
• Be respectful of the space and energy you bring into a room or area. This includes things like noise levels, scent sensitivity, and physical accessibility needs and requirements

Play spaces are maintained and supervised by our dungeon staff. Their presence is to support you, but also to make sure you’re engaging in safe, consensual play. Consent and risk-aware behavior aren’t optional in play spaces; they’re the foundation for everything we do.

Kinky Kollege staff, faculty, and volunteers have the same right to consent, personal space, and personal boundaries as any other attendee.

Their role as staff members does not automatically make them available or accessible. Do not ask questions or expect access to other staff members that you wouldn’t expect of yourself or your partners. Staff have the same right to enforce personal boundaries.

Power, Protocol, and Public Dynamics

We acknowledge that many attendees practice various forms of power exchange, 24/7 dynamics, protocols, and relationship structures. These are valid and important parts of our community and lifestyle.

However, like everything else at Kinky Kollege, power exchange is subject to the space and boundaries in which it occurs:

• Dominants and submissives must respect the consent and comfort of non-participating hotel guests or individuals in shared hotel spaces
• Public obedience protocols, clothing rules, or high-visibility identifiers like collars or “property of” labels are welcome in Kinky Kollege’s event spaces and grounds but may need to be more discreet in shared public spaces or areas of the hotel
• No one outside of your dynamic or relationship is obligated to acknowledge, respond to, or follow your protocol in any way

As always, consent is important not just within your own relationship but with the world around you. Scene etiquette includes consideration for the people around you, even in shared public space.

Community Responsibility

Kinky Kollege welcomes a diverse and unique blend of experienced players and new explorers, educators and curious minds, scene and non-scene. We ask that seasoned attendees set the tone of the community by being ambassadors of our culture.

That means:

• Setting an example for positive, respectful behavior in and around event spaces
• Alerting event staff if you witness unsafe, disrespectful, or otherwise boundary-pushing behavior
• Mentoring newer attendees in how to navigate the event and the community
• Holding each other and yourself accountable when mistakes are made

We try to keep our rules to a minimum and trust in the maturity and good judgment of our community. However, with the freedoms of this event come a responsibility to care for each other. All attendees are subject to our policies.

A Note on Humor, Harm, and “Pushing the Envelope”

Kink culture can often push against taboos, celebrate irreverence, and revel in intensity. Attempting to shock, make fun of, or willfully disturb non-scene individuals in shared public areas of the hotel will not be tolerated.

There’s a big difference between self-expression and exhibitionism. The former is your right in secure event spaces. The latter is not allowed if it’s non-consensual or directed at people outside of your dynamic in shared hotel spaces.

If You’re Unsure, Ask

A good rule of thumb: If you’re wondering whether something is appropriate or within the rules, it probably isn’t. When in doubt, always err on the side of caution or check with an event staff member. We’re here to help, not to shame or scold, and to make sure everyone has a great time.

Thank you for doing your part to make this event welcoming, safe, and fun for everyone.